About our Founder
Daniel Ryan Cotler Bestselling Author | Survivor | Advocate | Founder of the Heal Loudly™ Movement
Daniel Ryan Cotler is a nationally recognized author, poet, and leading expert on narcissistic abuse and psychological warfare. He is the founder of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Community (NARC) and the architect of the Heal Loudly™ Movement, a global initiative that challenges the culture of silence surrounding psychological abuse and demands justice for the voiceless.
Cotler is also the creator of two landmark legislative efforts:
The Voiceless Justice Act – a federal proposal to criminalize narcissistic psychological abuse and recognize its link to suicide as a form of psychological homicide.
The FRANKIE Initiative – a proposed federal registry for verified narcissistic abusers, modeled after offender tracking systems used in other forms of violence prevention.
💔 A Survivor Turned Advocate
Daniel is not just an educator he is a survivor of extreme, documented narcissistic abuse. He endured a year-long relationship with a covert abuser, Frankie Zerella, that nearly ended his life. During that time, he survived nine suicide attempts, was left homeless, and had all of his possessions stolen. He was targeted through an orchestrated smear campaign, dragged into court under false allegations, and retraumatized by a legal system unequipped to recognize psychological terrorism.
This wasn’t a misunderstanding. It was premeditated psychological warfare and it nearly killed him.
But Daniel didn’t stay silent. He transformed his personal devastation into a mission to protect others.
🗣️ Advocacy That Doesn’t Flinch
Daniel’s work has reached over 250 million people worldwide, offering a lifeline to survivors across social media, blogs, public speaking, and legal advocacy. His blog is ranked among the top 10 narcissistic abuse resources in the world, and his viral content has reshaped the global conversation on psychological abuse particularly in LGBTQ+ spaces, where survivors are often ignored or dismissed.
Daniel’s message is unapologetically clear:
Narcissistic abuse is not “just emotional trauma.” It is psychological warfare. When it leads to suicide, it is psychological homicide.
Through the Heal Loudly™ Movement, Daniel empowers survivors to speak out, confront their abusers, and demand accountability.
📚 Published Works
Daniel is the bestselling author. His books document, dissect, and disrupt the silence around psychological abuse:
Voiceless: The Silent Epidemic of Suicide Due to Narcissistic Abuse
My Heartbreak Diary: My Journey Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Beneath the Ashes: Haikus on Narcissistic Abuse and Healing
Unfortunate Ghost: Poetry on Love, Death, and Survival
Navigating Love: A Guide to Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships
He is also the creator of the YouTube docuseries Narcissistic True Crimes: Wilton Manors, which publicly exposes his abuse story and the systemic failures that allowed it to continue.
📢 Mission & Legacy
Daniel’s mission is to ensure that what happened to him and to countless others never happens again. He is building a future where narcissistic psychological abuse is legally recognized, prosecuted, and no longer swept under the rug.
Through survivor advocacy, legislative reform, and fearless education, Daniel Ryan Cotler is reclaiming power not just for himself, but for the millions of others who have been denied justice.
Daniel Ryan Cotler survivor, bestselling author, and founder of the Heal Loudly™ Movement